Pastor's Kids Speak Out

Pastor's kids face alot of pressures. By the looks of those I have known, it takes its toll on many! I found this article moving and helpful, but a little sobering: LINK

Comments

[Brione]

Hi, I am a pk My husband I are the youth pastors at a small church . This is our first year as youth pastors. We are trying to form a productive youth ministry with evangelism being the main focus. However, everything we implement has to questioned as if we don't know what we are doing by the people who have committed to work with us. Also, not only that I am praise and worhip leader. I am very passionate about the things of God. But I feel so alone. I believe people feel that I'm in the same arena because of my age (31) and a pk. Mind you, no one else in the congregation can do what I've been called to do. If they could I would gladly give up some of the responsibilities. Also, my brother just happens to be the church musician. How do I deal with the loneliness and rejection?

[Steve]

Brione, first of all I want to commend you for your honesty. I am a PK myself. My dad was a pastor off and on for 40 years. Most of his churches were very small. There is a lot a lof pressure that goes along with that--especially if you feel called to ministry yourself.

I can understand your loneliness and feeling of rejection. I have done ministry off and on again myself. It can be frustrating when people don't get your calling because of who your parents are. But don't give up hope. God has created you as an individual and He has a specific calling on your life.

I also know that it is hard to share your heart with people in the church you are ministering in. If possible, reach out to other friends who are in the ministry to share your heart. You may find that there a lot more people out there who are struggling with the same issues.

One of my favorite verses is II Corinthians 1:3-4: "Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God". I'm not claiming to have all the answers but whatever comfort I can offer you, I want to do so.

God bless you.

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